May’s Theme and Week 18: Love and Marriage (52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks – 2024 Version)

The theme for Week 18 is "Love and Marriage." There are so many ways you could approach this theme! Ancestors who got married multiple times; elopement stories; ancestors who were married a long time; or even the surname of Love! Click here to check out all the Themes for 2024.

I use Family Tree Maker for maintaining my genealogy. My main tree which is for my ancestry, shows there are 7,838 marriages for 21,282 people. 

Next, I wondered if I could print a report showing all the marriages. I went to the Publish workspace and under Relationship Reports there is a Marriage Report. This report will list the husband’s name, the wife’s name, their marriage date and relationship, such as Spouse-Ongoing. This report is great to see who is missing a recorded marriage date, I hate to say this, but way too many people. I also noticed that I don’t always have complete names for their spouses either. Then I decided to see how someone who remarried their spouse would show, and it only shows the preferred marriage. There was no option to specify to show alternate marriages. This report ended up being 185 pages long.

Thus, I decided to look if there was any other report about marriages that might be interesting. Under Other, I found a Calendar Report. This report allows you to pick the beginning month and year and how many months you want the calendar for. You can include birthdays, marriages and deaths. Thus, I unchecked the birthdays and deaths and looked at the results. Since I didn’t see my parent’s marriage listed, I looked at people options and realized I need to uncheck “Include births & marriages only if still living.” 

Now my parent’s marriage is showing, however, I wondered if it was cutting some people off because of the font size. I changed the Event font to Extra Small. It appeared to add people to the calendar. I even noticed that there is a checkbox for “use married name for female marriages. However, if unchecked then it cuts people out because of space and I decided I better leave it checked.

As I scrolled through the months, I saw that there were no blank days. Plus, since this is a leap year, I even had one marriage on Feb 29th. I decided to check out 2023 and see what happened to that marriage. It didn’t skip the marriage, but instead added it to Feb 28th, with (Feb 29) placed before the couple’s name.  

This calendar allows you to select just Immediate Family, Extended Family, All Individuals (this is what I selected) and Selected Individuals. 

I decided to try the Selected Individuals and where the marriage date is after 12/31/1899, which stated there was 6348 marriages. There were 1160 marriages before 01/01/1900. Next, I tried marriages after 01/01/1500 and there were 7430. When I tried marriages before 01/01/1500, I had 58 and I noticed an error since I saw people who were included had birth dates of 1923, 1956, 1957, etc… This was because they had a marriage month and day but no year.  Thus, I might want to find an actual year for these individuals. 

I tried seeing how marriages occurred before today (04/26/2024) and it reported 7474. Remember, FTM told me there were 7838 marriages. Plus, the marriages after 12/31/1899 were 6348 and the marriage before 01/01/1900 were 1160 this adds up to 7508. So, I have three different totals. FTM grand total probably includes those with no marriage date, or for people who were married more than once to the same person, such as my great grandparents, which had their preferred marriage only showing on the calendar.

Perhaps the calendar only counts the preferred spouse marriage for those who were marred multiple times.  However, I could not verify this, my uncle’s daughters all were married more than once and I could not find any marriage for them on the calendar. Perhaps there wasn’t room to include them? This is 15 different marriage dates for four female cousins. However, when I selected “Immediate Family” all their marriages were showing on the calendar.

When I selected “Extended Family”, it included my uncle’s wife’s first marriage.

Looking back at the Marriage Report, I see that I have the same "Individuals to include" options and if I want to dive deeper into the the numbers I got when running the calendar, this might be a good report to assist in this process. 

Anyway, this was a very interesting project. I learned that I need to find more marriage dates for people. The Calendar option is fun, perhaps printing one for a family reunion would be cool, keeping in mind that if it is printing preferred marriages, to make sure that the living people have their current spouse as preferred. 

Remember to have fun and Just Do Genealogy!